True self-love begins when we learn to embrace the internal source. You’ve likely heard the phrase, “You can’t love someone else until you love yourself.” While this is true, I’ve also come to understand that we can’t fully receive love from others until we feel a deep sense of love within ourselves.

At the core of our human experience is the need to feel loved and accepted. Love is one of the most powerful and transformative emotions we can experience. It is the essence of both our human and spiritual nature. Love flows from two key sources: the external—love we receive from others—and the internal—love we give to ourselves.

When we love ourselves unconditionally, we accept our flaws just as much as we celebrate our strengths. This self-acceptance frees us from judgment—both of ourselves and of others—and helps us resist the societal conditioning that often distorts our view of love.

We all long for that deep, soul-level connection. Yet many of us fear it. Why? Because we’ve been conditioned to fear love and instead embrace fear. We often run from love, believing the myth that “love hurts.” But love itself doesn’t hurt. What truly hurts are the feelings of rejection, abandonment, and disappointment—emotions often mistaken for love gone wrong.

This misunderstanding becomes one of the biggest barriers to attracting true love. Other obstacles include believing we don’t deserve love, feeling unworthy of receiving it, and placing pressure on ourselves to find it.

In my six-step approach, we will gently work through these barriers and open the path to authentic, soulmate-level love—starting with the love you give yourself.

If you’re still searching for love, perhaps it’s time to shift your focus inward rather than outward.

Looking for love outside of yourself often leads to frustration, because we attract what we are. When we approach love from a place of desperation, pressure, or disappointment, that is the energy we unconsciously project—and the energy we receive in return.

True transformation begins with self-love and self-worth. When we fully embrace who we are, we free ourselves from external validation and open the path to attracting the deepest, most meaningful connection—the kind that resonates not just in the mind, but in the soul.

Many of us dream of finding “the one”—our true love, our soulmate.

I have learnt a powerful lesson: when we release control and stop chasing love, we make space for it to appear in its highest form.

So please don’t despair it’s never too late for love.

Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up—it means trusting that the love we seek begins within us, and flows outward into our reality.

People often ask me, “How do you know if someone is your soulmate? How will I know if they’re the one?”

The answer is simple: you’ll just know—because the connection will feel unlike anything you’ve experienced before.

It’s an intensity that’s both powerful and gentle. It stirs passion while bringing a profound sense of peace. Being with this person feels like coming home.

You’ll feel safe, yet beautifully vulnerable. You’ll feel alive, inspired, and deeply seen—as though an entirely new world has opened up before you. It’s not about perfection, but about deep resonance. It’s a connection that speaks to your soul.